Dirty Truth or Dare

How to play

• Talk first. Go through the categories together and untick anything either of you doesn't want. What's left is your list for tonight.
• Pick your roles. Dominant, Submissive or Switch. A dominant only gets cards where they're in charge, a submissive only cards where their partner is, and a switch gets both.
• Take turns. Choose truth or dare, or press "Surprise me". Answer honestly, or do the dare.
• Skip freely. A skip costs nothing and needs no reason. Your safeword ends the game.
• Turn it up together. Move from Dirty to Hardcore or Free use only when you both want to.
• End it properly. "End the game" gives you a short check-in for afterwards.
• Come back tomorrow. Tonight's cards change every night, and the game remembers which cards you've played on this device, so you get fresh ones first. "Remind me" adds an evening reminder to your calendar.

The three levels

• Dirty: Oral, toys, edging, stripping and filthy talk.
• Hardcore: Bondage, harder spanking, orders, denial, being put on display.
• Free use: Short windows where one of you is "on" and the other doesn't ask. "Not now" always works.

The Free use level turns the fantasy from the books into short, agreed windows: one of you is "on" until the next turn, or for ten minutes, and the other doesn't have to ask. Read what free use means if it's new to you.

BDSM truth or dare

Press "BDSM cards only" to keep the edging and denial, orders and protocol, bondage and spanking cards. Degradation joins them only if you've both switched it on. Ties stay loose enough for two fingers, nothing goes round anyone's neck, and nobody who's tied up is left alone.

All the cards

Every truth and dare in the game, by level. The game deals them at random and skips the categories you've switched off.

Dirty truths

1. What's the dirtiest thing you've thought about me in a completely ordinary moment?
2. Giving or receiving oral: which do you think about more, and what exactly do you picture?
3. Describe the last time you touched yourself thinking about me.
4. Which position do you think about when you want me most?
5. What's the filthiest word you'd like me to say in bed?
6. Would you rather watch me touch myself, or be watched while you do?
7. Which toy would you like me to use on you, and where?
8. How long do you think you could last if I edged you properly?
9. What's a fantasy about me you've never told me because it felt too dirty?
10. Fast and rough, or slow and deep: what do you want tonight?
11. Where do you most want my mouth right now?
12. What's the sexiest sound I make, and how do you get it out of me?
13. When do you most want me to just take charge?
14. What would you like me to wear, or not wear, for the rest of the night?
15. What's the best orgasm I've ever given you, and what made it that good?
16. How turned on are you, from one to ten? What would get you to ten?
17. If we bought one new toy tonight, what would it be?
18. Do you want to come once, hard, or as many times as I can make you?
19. What would you like me to whisper in your ear during sex?
20. Where in our home would you most like to be bent over?
21. Is there a word you'd secretly love to be called in bed, even a slightly degrading one?
22. Anal: curious, a yes, a maybe, or a firm no? Tell me why.
23. What's the first thing you'd make me do if I had to say yes to everything for ten minutes?
24. How would you tease me if you wanted me begging in under five minutes?
25. Which toy would you most like to use on me, and how slowly?
26. What would you like to watch me do to myself, and what would you tell me to do first?
27. What would you like me to call you when you're in charge?
28. Where in our home would you most like to bend me over?
29. Would you rather make me come once, hard, or as many times as you can?

Dirty dares

1. Kiss and lick your way down your partner's body, and stop just before you get where they want you.
2. Strip completely, slowly, while your partner stays dressed and tells you what to take off next.
3. Tell your partner, in a low voice, exactly how you want to make them come tonight.
4. Choose a toy and use it on your partner for two minutes. They're not allowed to touch you back.
5. Go down on your partner for two minutes. Stop when the timer does, however close they are.
6. Touch yourself for one minute while your partner watches from across the room.
7. Edge your partner with your hand. Stop when they say "close", wait ten seconds, then start again. Three times.
8. Sit in your partner's lap, facing them, and grind slowly. No hands.
9. Describe your partner's naked body out loud, slowly, as if you were writing it in a book.
10. Undress your partner completely. Every time a piece of clothing comes off, kiss the skin it was covering.
11. Your partner gives you three instructions. Follow them in order, without saying a word.
12. Your partner lies back. Kiss everywhere except where they want it most, until they ask for it out loud.
13. Hand your partner a vibrator. They decide where it goes on you, and for how long, for one minute.
14. Lie back and show your partner exactly how you like to be touched. They watch, then copy.
15. Ride your partner, or let them ride you, for one minute. Then stop and go back to the game.
16. Moan the dirtiest sentence you can think of into your partner's ear.
17. Tease your partner for two minutes. They're not allowed to come before your next turn.
18. Stand in front of a mirror together. Your partner touches you while you both watch.
19. Kneel and kiss your partner's inner thighs, getting closer each time. Then stop.
20. Your partner picks a spot on your body. You can't move while they kiss and bite it.
21. Your partner chooses a position. Get into it, naked, and stay perfectly still while they look at you.
22. Hold a vibrator against your partner over their underwear while you count down from 30 out loud.
23. Text your partner the dirtiest thing you want to do to them later, then make them read it aloud.
24. Bend your partner over the bed and give them five spanks, alternating sides. They thank you for each one.
25. Bring your partner right to the edge with your hand, then decide: let them come, or stop. Don't tell them which first.
26. Put on whatever your partner chooses (or nothing at all) and stay that way until the game ends.
27. With plenty of lube, tease your partner's bum slowly with one finger for a minute.
28. Ask your partner, nicely, what they want from you. Then do exactly that.
29. Kneel in front of your partner and kiss wherever they point, for as long as they like.
30. Let your partner loosely tie your wrists with a scarf and tease you. Your hands stay where they put them.

Hardcore truths

1. If I owned you for a whole weekend, what's the first rule you'd want me to set?
2. Tied spread out on the bed: what would you want me to do first, and how long before you begged?
3. How hard do you actually want to be spanked? Show me on your own thigh.
4. How many days could you go without coming if I told you to wait?
5. Which degrading words turn you on, and which are off limits forever?
6. Describe the roughest sex you've ever wanted, start to finish.
7. Do you want to be used tonight, or do the using? Be specific.
8. Would you like to be put on display: naked, posed and looked at for as long as I like?
9. Would you like me to use your mouth while you're tied up?
10. Would you wear a toy for an hour at home while we did something ordinary, like cooking dinner?
11. What's the most humiliating thing you'd be thrilled to be told to do?
12. What would you do to earn an orgasm if I made you work for it?
13. Rope, cuffs, a spreader bar, or just my hands: what do you most want to be held down with?
14. Hand, belt, paddle or crop: which would you want marks from?
15. Would you rather be held down and taken hard, or made to ride me until your legs shake?
16. What do you want me to call you while I'm using you?
17. Would you like to wear a collar for me? When would you want it on?
18. Would you like to be told you're only good for one thing? Which thing?
19. Toy, fingers or more: how far would you want to go with anal, and how slowly?
20. Have you fantasised about being shared? Who's in the room, and what did they all agree to first?
21. What would you do if I told you to kneel by the door every time I came home?
22. Would you rather be denied for a week, or made to come until you beg me to stop?
23. If you owned me for a whole weekend, what's the first rule you'd set?
24. Tied spread out on the bed in front of you: what would you do to me first?
25. How hard would you like to spank me, and how would you build up to it?
26. How long would you make me wait to come, if it were up to you?
27. Which words would you love to call me while you use me?
28. How would you like me to greet you when you come home: kneeling by the door, or something else?
29. What would you hold me down with: rope, cuffs, a spreader bar, or just your hands?
30. Would you rather put me on display, or use me while I'm tied up? Talk me through it.
31. What's the most humiliating thing you'd love to make me do?
32. What would I have to do to earn an orgasm from you?
33. Would you like to put a collar on me? When would it go on?
34. Hand, belt, paddle or crop: which would you use on me, and how many?
35. How do you want to use me tonight? Be specific.

Hardcore dares

1. Tie your partner's wrists to the bed (two fingers' room under every tie) and do whatever you like to them.
2. Put your partner over your knee and give them fifteen spanks, building up. They count. If they lose count, start again.
3. Your partner kneels at your feet until your next turn, and speaks only when you ask them a question.
4. Take a handful of your partner's hair and guide their mouth wherever you want it.
5. Edge your partner three times. On the third, ask if they'd like to come. Then say no.
6. Tell your partner what they're for tonight, in the dirtiest words they've said they like.
7. Blindfold your partner and tie their hands behind them. Touch them anywhere you like; they may only say "please" and "thank you".
8. Pose your partner naked however you like, then sit back and look. They can't move or cover up.
9. Pin your partner face down and grind against them from behind. They don't turn over until you say.
10. Put a toy on or in your partner and set it to low. It stays there, and you hold the controls, until your next turn.
11. Your partner must ask permission, in a full sentence, before they do anything at all.
12. Give your partner five strokes with a belt or paddle, as hard as they ask for. Ask "harder or softer?" after each one.
13. Lie back and make your partner earn it: they can use only their mouth until you say stop.
14. Make your partner crawl to you across the room and ask for it nicely.
15. Your partner touches themselves while you count down slowly from 60. They can't come before zero, and you may restart the count once.
16. Hold your partner's legs apart (or tie them apart) and tease them with a toy.
17. Ride your partner hard, holding their wrists down so they can't touch you.
18. Fasten a collar on your partner (loose enough for two fingers). Until the game ends, they call you by a title you choose.
19. Narrate, in filthy detail, what you'll do to your partner later. They can't touch you, or themselves, while you talk.
20. Spank your partner's inner thighs ten times, lightly, then kiss every spot.
21. Your partner touches themselves in front of a mirror while you tell them exactly how.
22. Your partner kneels. Use their mouth for one minute, then tell them how they did.
23. Make your partner come, then keep going for thirty seconds while they're still sensitive.
24. Slowly ease a well-lubed plug (with a flared base) into your partner. It stays in until the game ends.
25. Make your partner say out loud, three times, exactly what they want you to do to them. Every time they blush, they owe you a spank.
26. Your partner is your footrest. They stay on all fours, silent and still, while you get comfortable.
27. Hold both your partner's wrists above their head in one hand and do whatever you like with the other.
28. Bend your partner over the arm of the sofa and use them, with a toy or your body, the way they've told you they like.
29. Bend over your partner's knee and ask for fifteen spanks. Count them out loud; if you lose count, they start again.
30. Kneel at your partner's feet until your next turn. Speak only when they ask you a question.
31. Hold out your wrists and let your partner tie them to the bed (two fingers' room under every tie). They do whatever they like.
32. Let your partner take a handful of your hair and guide your mouth wherever they want it.
33. Let your partner edge you three times. On the third, beg to come. They decide.
34. Ask your partner what you're for tonight, then say it back to them in their words.
35. Put on a blindfold and your hands behind your back. Your partner touches you anywhere; you may only say "please" and "thank you".
36. Strip and let your partner pose you however they like. Hold still while they look.
37. Ask permission, in a full sentence, before you do anything at all.
38. Bring your partner a belt or paddle and ask for five strokes. Say "harder" or "softer" after each one.
39. Crawl to your partner across the room and ask for it nicely.
40. Touch yourself while your partner counts down slowly from 60. Don't come before zero; they may restart the count once.
41. Kneel and ask your partner to fasten a collar on you (loose enough for two fingers). Until the game ends, call them by the title they choose.
42. Be your partner's footrest: on all fours, silent and still, while they get comfortable.
43. Ask your partner to put a toy on or in you and keep the controls until your next turn.
44. Kneel and let your partner use your mouth for one minute, then ask how you did.
45. Hand your partner a plug (well-lubed, with a flared base) and ask them to ease it in slowly. It stays in until the game ends.
46. Lie face down and let your partner pin you and grind against you from behind. Don't turn over until they say.
47. Hold your legs apart for your partner (or let them tie them apart) while they tease you with a toy.

Free use truths

1. If I could use you anywhere at home, any time, for a whole day, where would you hope I'd start?
2. Which everyday moment would you most like to be interrupted in, and how?
3. Would you like to be told to get on your knees with no warning, just a look?
4. What would you want our "you're on" signal to be: a word, a token, a look?
5. What would make you feel most owned: being used quickly and sent away, or kept close all evening?
6. Would you rather be bent over whatever is nearest, or pulled into my lap?
7. What would you want to be wearing (or not) on a free use day at home?
8. After I use you, would you want to say "thank you", or nothing at all?
9. If you were on all weekend, would you be allowed to come? Who decides?
10. Which scene from a free use story would you most want us to try for real?
11. Would you rather be on for a whole day, or be called over for one hour, any time this week?
12. Would you like to wear a toy that I can switch on whenever I like?
13. My toy, my plaything, or something filthier: what would you like to be called while you're on?
14. What would you need from me afterwards, after a whole day of being used?
15. Quick and over in two minutes, or slow and drawn out: how do you picture being used?
16. Would you like a rule that you never refuse, and just say "not now" when you need to?
17. Would you like me to watch you go about your evening naked, and decide when I want you?
18. Have you imagined being free use for more than one person? What would they each have to agree to first?
19. Would you like to be used and not allowed to finish, every time, until I say so?
20. What's the hottest thing I could say to you right before I use you?
21. Would anal be on your free use list, or something you only want when we plan it?
22. If you could use me anywhere at home, any time, for a whole day, where would you start?
23. Which everyday moment would you most like to interrupt me in, and how?
24. What look or word would you use to put me on my knees?
25. Would you rather use me quickly and send me away, or keep me close all evening?
26. Would you bend me over whatever is nearest, or pull me into your lap?
27. What would you want me wearing (or not) on a free use day at home?
28. If I were on all weekend, would you let me come? When?
29. Would you rather have me on for a whole day, or be able to call me over for one hour, any time this week?
30. Would you like to keep a toy on me that you can switch on whenever you like?
31. What would you call me while I'm on?
32. How would you look after me after a whole day of using me?
33. What's the hottest thing you could say to me right before you use me?
34. Would anal be on the list for when I'm on, or something you'd rather plan?

Free use dares

1. You're on until your next turn: your partner can touch, kiss and use you whenever they like, and you keep playing as normal.
2. Whenever your partner taps their thigh, you get on your knees and use your mouth until they tap again.
3. Put on an "on" token (a bracelet, a hair tie). Until it comes off at the end of the game, your partner doesn't need to ask.
4. Stay naked for the rest of the game. Before each of your turns, your partner can pose you however they like.
5. Lie face down across your partner's lap and let them use you however they like. You can't ask for anything.
6. Your partner uses you for their pleasure only. You don't get to come; say "thank you" when they're done.
7. Your partner puts a toy on you and keeps the remote. They can switch it on whenever they like until the game ends.
8. Go back to what you were doing (the game, a snack, your phone). Your partner can interrupt and take you whenever they like.
9. Kneel by your partner's feet. You're theirs to use until they say "thank you".
10. Your partner reads a free story aloud while you kneel and use your mouth on them. If they stop reading, you stop too.
11. Your partner ties you down, and you're on until your next turn: they use you, make you wait, and use you again. They stay in the room the whole time.
12. Bend over the nearest piece of furniture and stay there. Your partner uses you once, whenever they're ready, then lets you up.
13. You're your partner's plaything: you answer to whatever name they give you and thank them every time they use you.
14. When your partner says "present", get into the position they choose, as fast as you can. They can call it three times before your next turn.
15. You're your partner's private show: they say what you do, you do it, and they watch.
16. You're on, and you may come only when your partner says "now". If you come without it, you owe them another ten minutes.
17. Your partner picks a spot in your home. The next time you walk past it before the game ends, they can pull you in and use you.
18. Your partner watches TV or scrolls their phone. You keep them busy with your mouth; they barely look up.
19. Hand your partner a toy. They can use it on you wherever and whenever they like; you're not allowed to reach for it.
20. Until the game ends, your partner can spank you whenever you walk past. Thank them every time.
21. Ride your partner until they say stop, not when you're done. Then thank them.
22. Your partner uses you, then sends you back to your seat with one word: "Good." Nothing else.
23. You're the user until your next turn. Take the thing you've been holding back.
24. You're on for anal until your next turn: your partner decides when, and uses plenty of lube.
25. Your partner tells you, in detail, how they'll use you the next time you're on. You listen without touching them, then say "yes, please".
26. Your partner is on until your next turn: touch, kiss and use them whenever you like while they keep playing as normal.
27. Whenever you tap your thigh, your partner gets on their knees and uses their mouth until you tap again.
28. Give your partner an "on" token (a bracelet, a hair tie). Until it comes off at the end of the game, you don't need to ask.
29. Your partner stays naked for the rest of the game. Before each of their turns, you can pose them however you like.
30. Lay your partner face down across your lap and use them however you like. They can't ask for anything.
31. Use your partner for your pleasure only. They don't get to come, and they say "thank you" when you're done.
32. Put a toy on your partner and keep the remote. Switch it on whenever you like until the game ends.
33. Your partner goes back to what they were doing. Interrupt them and take them whenever you like.
34. Your partner kneels by your feet, yours to use until you say "thank you".
35. Read a free story aloud while your partner kneels and uses their mouth on you. If you stop reading, they stop too.
36. Tie your partner down. They're on until your next turn: use them, make them wait, use them again. Stay in the room the whole time.
37. Pick a spot in your home. The next time your partner walks past it before the game ends, pull them in and use them.
38. Watch TV or scroll your phone while your partner keeps you busy with their mouth. Barely look up.
39. Until the game ends, you can spank your partner whenever they walk past. They thank you every time.
40. Say "present" and your partner gets into the position you choose, as fast as they can. You can call it three times before your next turn.
41. Your partner rides you until you say stop, not when they're done. Then they thank you.
42. Use your partner, then send them back to their seat with one word: "Good." Nothing else.
43. Your partner is your plaything: give them a name to answer to, and they thank you every time you use them.
44. Your partner may come only when you say "now". If they come without it, they owe you another ten minutes.
45. Tell your partner, in detail, how you'll use them the next time they're on. They listen without touching you, then say "yes, please".
46. Your partner is your private show: tell them what to do, and watch.
47. Your partner is on for anal until your next turn: you decide when, and use plenty of lube.

After the game

• Take off any tokens, collars and ties. Water, a snack, a blanket.
• Each say one card you loved, and one you'd skip next time.
• Anything you want more of? Write it down for the next game, or for the Party Planner.

Kinky Thinking's negotiation checklist and aftercare plan help with the talking before and after.

Prefer your dares in a jar? Pass is a free story about a rainy Sunday, a jar of dares and two red poker chips for saying no. There are more in the free stories.

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